A tone, a look, a cancelled plan — something now that feels familiar.

Not objectively huge. Other people might not notice. Your body does.

Sets off what your system remembers — rejection, being dismissed, not mattering.

The trigger is the match. The wound catches fire. Blaming the match keeps you stuck.

Shutdown, panic, rage — bigger than the moment warrants. You know it while it happens.

Big reaction, small thing? That tells you about the wound. That's Marker 1. It's information.

Your body thinks the past is now. LOLA is activated — the part that assumes the present is the past.

Noticing the pattern is the work. No shame, just data. You can't change what you can't see.